Depression. Everyone hates the word depression. No one wants to acknowledge that they are depressed. We live in a society that a huge portion of the people are depressed. The biggest reason for this, is sexual repression. Sexual repression leads to depression. Depression and refraining from sex, often leads to overconsumption of food. Which leads to weight gain. Which makes you more depressed. It’s a viscous cycle.
I have been depressed for years now. I never dealt with my depression. Instead I masked it with eating disorders. I am finally dealing with my depression over the last couple months. I took out all my distractions and addictions to break down the walls. Now my feelings can be heard again. Today I took some photos with JediRich. Here they are. I feel proud that I am breaking down the years of repression and depression.
It’s important to break that cycle of sexual repression. Sexual repression turns to depression. Which leads to overeating which causes weight gain and unhappiness. Our society has gone to a whole new level of sexual hang ups due to repression. Humans are insanely sexual beings. It is in our nature to have a lot of sex with a lot of different people. We are not monogamous by nature. That’s why so many relationships fail. They hold each other to standards that no one can happily meet.
We have rules in society, that you can only have sex with one partner for life. You may think that you are happy, but you will always feel inadequate. We are social people that want to have fun and fuck. We are not made to only be with only one person for life. for Our current society has put the kibosh on that. We have gone the opposite of more open. We are now so sexually repressed it’s ridiculous.
We have more sexual issues than ever before, because people are refraining from sex. The more you refrain from sex, the more depressed you will become. Your body is saying I want to fuck and you keep telling your feelings no. Ignoring your true feelings will lead to depression.
I have struggled with depression for many years. All depression ultimately stems from sexual repression, because sexuality is the core of our being. I am a very sexual girl. JediRich and I have sex at least once a day if not 2 or 3 times a day. We understand how important it is to be open with your partner.
JediRich and I are a Polyamorous couple. That means we are able to fuck other people within our relationship. We are open to multiple loves within our base relationship. JediRich and I are each other’s primary. Which means we are do or die together for eternity. We bring other people into our lives as we feel. We had a girl friend live with us a couple years back.
Even though we are a very open and sexual couple, sexual repression can still occur. It can occur daily. You have to keep yourself on your toes, to not let sex ever become a dirty thing to you. If you view sex as dirty, in anyway, then you are sexually repressed. If you are not fucking your partner daily, then you are sexually repressed. We are such sexual beings. You need to make sure for your health that you are either fucking or masturbating at least once a day.
Sexual repression is the biggest culprit for weight gain. When we deny our feelings what they really want, our body tries other methods like eating to compensate. If you push down your sexuality, then you will notice that you will struggle with overeating. Food can be a temporary mood lifter. When you eat the food, you feel good temporarily. Once you realize how much you ate, or if you feel sluggish, then the depression comes on ten fold. You have to get off this new trend of no sex, then compensating with food.
If people were being more open and poly, we would have a lot more attractive people. Sexual repression causes people to feel insecure. When people feel insecure, they do not represent themselves as well as if they are feeling good. Depressed people will never look as good as people who are free of spirit.
A free, Polyamorous person, will look more attractive, because they are in tune with themselves. Insecurity and depression is never attractive. Freedom to be your true self with make you look fresh and young. No one wants to be a dried up old depressed grump.
The best way to get out of depression, is listen to your feelings. That is the cure. Your feelings will tell you everything you need to hear. Often people ignore their feelings, because they think their brain knows better. Listen to your feelings, they will never lead you astray. Your own feelings are never wrong. Be good to yourself by finally listening.
I am finally starting to listen to my own feelings again, and my depression is starting to subside. It takes a bit of undoing. I have to retrain my brain. I developed some bad life habits, by not being in touch with how I felt. Your brain is all logical. If you just use your brain, you will have a boring life. Your brain is all about survival and keeping you safe. Having fun is not a priority of the brain. That’s your feelings. So you have to train your brain to listen to your feelings.
Jedi Joy Lightowler is an expert in eating and nutrition & a combat special-ops Air Force Veteran.
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