Thanksgiving is a Time When Enemies Sit Down Together at Dinner
Thanksgiving was very important to my father. He believed the old ideals: that thanksgiving was a time when enemies sat down at the dinner table together and ate, drank and had fun.
My father was a conservative Republican from the 1950s. I mention the date because the conservatism my father taught me was absent of the Christian "morals" that have hijacked the Republican Party over the last 20 years.
Today, the Republican Party has very few ideals that my father instilled in me. Today, the party is overrun by Christians with an agenda to convert everyone to an anti-sex, anti-drinking lifestyle. They want to abolish abortion ( 6 states have made abortion essentially impossible since Trump took office) and they shut down all the escort sites in the U.S. The party allowed AT&T to merge with Time-Warner who owns HBO and CNN. They created monopoly so that they can control the media in 2020. These are not what my father wanted his party to spend their time doing.
As such, in 2005 my father, after 60 years as a Republican, became a Democrat. Like a really hardcore, liberal Democrat, complete with bumper stickers and canvassing rural areas of Texas to help Barrack Obama win the 2008 election.
My father was raised in West Linn, Oregon; son of banker and a teacher. He married a Panamanian woman he met when he was in the army. His friends were all conservative and Republican Latins. But when my father's daughter became mentally ill, his conservative friends quietly distanced themselves from him. It was then he realized that the conservatives in the 2000's were not the same as conservative's of 1950s.
I will never forget the Thanksgiving I spent with Amanda and Cap Hedges and their three wealthy children: Greg, Wendy and Jason. My father had just been diagnosed with cancer in 2007. At the time of my father's death, we had to pawn my guitar and some other items to get the $900 necessary to perform the military funeral. All of our assets were upside down due to the mortgage scandal of 2008. Not that I expected my father's friends to help him (they never even bought his dinner on his birthday), but I did not expect to hear what Amanda said about my father. She said, "Too bad he wasted his life getting Obama elected." Nice, Amanda. Real nice.
He moved to Las Vegas for treatment. But mostly he moved there because he didn't want to have a bunch a fake Latin friends trying to convert him to Catholicism on his death bed. Oh, Amanda will say she's not Catholic. Okay, you're not a Catholic, you're a fish (inside joke).
The micro-society I saw with my parent's friends is indicative of the world today. His friends were opposite of the Generation Z and Millennials values; his friends valued money over human life. To show compassion is fine as long as you don't have to give any money. Its true. Even though my father was very gernous with Louis Navarrro, at his funeral, Louis specifically said "Im here for you. But I wont give you any of my money." I didn't ask. He just said it because when the owner of a small business dies, there are many financial obligations. And in this case, it was 2011; the montage crisis. My family had lost everything afte3r the 2008 mortgage scandal. Louis knew my mother was struggling. He wanted to make sure that it did no cost him any money.
And the same was true with Cap and Amanda Hedges.
As I witnessed the fairness of my fathers friends, I learned that there its no loyalty amongst the wealthy. You must have money and/or abide by their strict Catholic rules (disguised as Christianity, Imago, AA, or vegetarianism). If you do not have one or the other, see Trading Places.
As my father became more liberal, his friends became more distant. The men in their group chose to side with Amanda and Nenita's conservative Catholic rules. And their rules are always the same: no sex, no smoking, no drinking, no excessive partying, etc, etc. Hopefully, this year, someone will remember that while you got you what you wanted, you lost what you had.
Laughter, music and fun died in 2011. Did you even notice that your parties aren't fun anymore?
I did. Thats why I don't talk to any of them anymore. Thanks Dad for getting me out of there. Happy Thanksgiving.
Former banker and CEO, JediRich Lightowler changed his life at age 48 to follow his passion of photography, music, video and production. He visits Las Vegas during spring and fall, the tropics during the winter, and travels during the summer to New York and London.