This is not a criticism. This is how relationships worked in the 1950s. The man would make money and the women would find a man who made money. But what happens after?
My father was a CFO. My mother was a “gold-digger”. How does a child come to face that fact? It would explain why I waited until age 45 to get married for the first time. My father taught me to find a person who is more interested in love, happiness, understanding and positivity.
The women I dated between the ages of 30 and 45 had similar traits to my mother. Every one of them was a Golddigger in disguise. None of them had any interest in me. What they saw was my status, my money, my house, my condo, my business.
They never saw the real me. They weren’t interested. Golddiggers, like the women I dated, are not interested in what there is to be learned. They’re only interested in one thing: money for themselves and their immediate family. Some woman actually took the money I gave them and funneled it to their brothers. Others would literally steal money out of my checking account. Some of the man that I buy them a sports car. And even after buying them a sports car they still stole money when they left the relationship. This is after I paid for rent travel food and utilities for all of them.
Every one of my exes before my wife was a Golddigger. That’s why it didn’t work out. That’s why I was not interested in them. I dated these women for two years at a time. I got to know them very well. Well enough to know not to marry them.
But because these women were so self focused, they didn’t learn a thing about me. That means they don’t learn anything anywhere. 15 years later I would imagine it’s one of my exes are doing the exact same thing they were doing when I left them.
Why are relationships important?
Relationships are not about how much you can get from the other person. A relationship is an establishment. Relationships are what the universe values above all else. When two people come together, they exchange generations of ancestry learning. This ancestry learning is essential in the development of society and in the personal development of another human being. By having a relationship of convenience or one where you only are with the person because of what they give you financially, you are missing out on a large portion of what life is all about.